All week I have been feeling sorry for our 6 year old son, Hunter. Sorry in a funny way. This poor child has been sneaking around, counting his money from his piggy bank, whispering in his daddy’s ear, and suddenly running out of the room whenever I enter. He was on a MISSION: MOMMY’S MOTHER’S DAY GIFT!!! LOL!!!

More frequently, Hunter and my husband would start leaving the house together for “DUDE TIME”

leaving behind my spy..Lake, our 4 year old daughter. They didn’t trust that she wouldn’t tell me what was going on…that was probably the right thing to do…LEAVE HER, LOL!! She loves me way too much, not to tell me what I wanted to know :-) I only hope she will continue this behavior when she is a teen.(not holding my breathe on that wish!)

Sunday Morning was finally here! I awoke first for my “me” time , shortly after the rest of the gang was up and greeting me with HUGS and Mother’s Day Praises. It was a great morning! Hunter  looked much more relaxed at this point, but then mommy changed the plan…YEP! I asked, if I could get my gifts later. Everyone was great with that, they gave me my cards and would save the rest for later.    

We headed off to Church, Brunch, Piedmont Park, The Sweet Auburn Festival and finally home :-) It was a wonderful Mother’s Day and a Fabulous Family Fun Day!

Once home, I showered and came downstairs. I was greeting by beaming faces and my gifts :-) Yep, all I had “hinted” for was there.

But the gift I wanted the most, the one that made me the happiest was staring me in the face… the gift of a loving husband and two adorable, caring children. What more could I possibly ask or hint for… then just that :-)

Mission Complete & Successful:  Mother’s Day 2011: AWESOME!

I got an email this afternoon around 3:00pm wishing me and 9 other AWESOME women “Happy Mother’s Day! The email went on to say, “the post is live and I hope you love it and will share it” cheers, Donna :

http://www.bnet.com/photos/10-innovative-mompreneurs-and-how-their-businesses-were-born/6229260?tag=fd-featureRoto;fd-featureRoto1

What a AWESOME Start to this Startup Mama’s Mother’s Day weekend! BNET is one FAVORITES. I have been a fan since business school (that’s been awhile…LOL) This is like a big deal to me :-) 

Happy Mother’s Day!

xoxo 

I have a new love at the gym…Spinning. I was totally hooked after the first class. It’s so intense, yet so good!

The Art of Spinning

 
 
Yesterday, long after class had ended, I was thinking about spin class and thought…spinning is a lot like life.   You start slow, speed up, changes are thrown your way and, before you know it, you are cruising toward the end.  Let’s examine this a bit further.
 
At the outset, you start peddling nice and easy.  Then once you are moving along at a good, comfortable pace, you’re told to add some resistance, but not too much, so you feel as if you are headed up a small hill.   Now you are breathing a little heavier, feeling things start to speed up.  But you can handle it.  Before you know it, you’re being told to stand up.  And now you’re peddling faster and adding even more resistance.
 
As you approach the finish line, you hear “push yourself”, “center yourself” (meaning position your bottom just above the seat without touching it).  You’re really feeling the burn.  Your body is soaked in sweat.  And you are working overtime to keep the beat.  Music thumping, heart pumping…there is no doubt you’re alive! 
 
Real Life
All that I have described is much like life—if not yours, definitely mine. 
I start my day slow and in control.  “Today I will be focused, organized, complete my tasks and “git ‘er done!”  But then unexpected tasks, events, and just stuff pops up (i.e. added resistance) making the day more challenging, like going up an unexpected hill.

 
I want to stay at that comfortable, relaxed pace I set, but things change. It is in these challenging moments that I have to “center myself”.  Like in spinning, being centered in life requires concentration, focus. But it certainly helps make things manageable.
 
This centeredness is critical, particularly when the sudden onslaught of challenges appears: someone needs this, someone needed that yesterday, this other thing had to be done hours ago, and there are still many things left to do.  Business tasks, domestic tasks, “me” tasks…it all has to be done. 
 
But as the challenges are overcome one by one, and I start to see the light at the end of the tunnel, I feel the breeze of downhill speed.  Ahh, the resistance is off and I’m moving at a rate of speed that is pure enjoyment. 
                                  
I feel blessed that there are so many more enjoyable downhill moments in my life.  Morning workouts, brainstorming sessions with the hubby over tea, hanging out with the kids after school, evening dinners with the family, hot showers before bed and cuddling with the hubby after the kids are asleep.

 Nevertheless, like spinning, its those tough hill-like challenges in between that make us feel great and allows us to appreciate the life overall.   This is why we love the challenges, any why, despite my sore bottom, I’m Spinning My Life Away!

And, speaking of spinning, in case “HE” is reading…LOL, my Mother’s Day Gift Request…

 
Happy Mother’s Day, Moms!!
xoxo,
-B


P.S. - If you are a Spinner…I found this AWESOME seat cover @ REI for that Booty Burn :-)
http://www.rei.com/product/686433/serfas-hybrid-gel-saddle-pad 
 
xoxo,
-B
 
 

“How are you and the other co-founder related?”  “Is ‘HE’ your husband?”  “How is it to work with your husband?” These are the new questions I am always asked when I attend business-related functions with my husband and business partner.

At the Launch Conference, I was approached by a well known serial entrepreneur (whose name I will keep secret) and he said to me: So, did I hear right that you and the other co-founder are married? I replied “Yes, Sterling is my husband”. He says “Wow, that is AWESOME, and you guys seem to have really good chemistry together.” I was feeling a sense of pride to have received that compliment from such an accomplished guy.

But then, before I knew it, he blindsided me with “my ex-wife and I were business partners in my first business.”  Wait..did he just say ex-wife!! Me—a look of “whoa”. Him—a look of “awwwwkwaaard”.  Guess we were both caught off guard by that.  LOL! Mr. Serial Entrepreneur assured me that their business dealings together had absolutely nothing to do with why “she’s is my ex-wife now”.  With lots of laughter, I learned a lot from him that day.

This conversation, as amusing as it turned out to be, was filed away till later.  Today must be my “later”, as I ponder on my feelings about being a business partner—an equal, if you will—with my dear hubby.  Will the good times last?  Can the person you sleep, and with whom you’ve shared your most intimate moments, take you seriously in a business setting?  Will I someday share my “why he is my ex” story with another husband & wife startup team?

 Will he?

 This is why I like meeting new people, especially entrepreneurs who have “been there and done that.” There is a wealth of knowledge and life experiences out there and we all have a story to share.  And my ears are wide open.

Finding the Perfect Partner Isn’t Something That Just Happens

Like finding the right person to spend the rest of your life with, finding the right business partner requires identifying some of the same ingredients—CHEMISTRY being the biggest, in my opinion. There needs to be a strong mutual desire toward accomplishing the same goals. For Sterling and I, this a perfect fit. Not only because we have the same business goals, we have very similar life goals. For me that is where the “being married” part comes in handy.  Being co-founders is not weird for us.  We co-parent, we co-chore, we co-sleep, we co-habitate.  Ok, I know those aren’t your most widely used “co” words but they do exist in our world, as they do in many of yours  :-)

Running a household and raising a family is a full-time job—a business within itself.  But it is something we’ve always handled together.  So, when it came to running StorkBrokers, working together was not a difficult transition.  It’s not always a walk in the park.  We have our clashes from time to time.  I want my way, he often sees things better his way.  Yet as stressful as these moment can be, it is in these moments that I grow as a business partner, a woman, a wife.  Why?  Because new challenges that force us out of our comfort zones expand our abilities and understanding .  And as a husband and wife team, these lessons learned don’t really get left at the office.  Instead they permeate through all aspects of our lives.  This is why adjustment is important in my world.

A spirited debate amongst a non-husband & wife team can go like this: disagreement, debate, leaving, talk to you tomorrow.

However, for a husband & wife team, disagreement leads to debate.  But since we’re in the same house, we have to resolve or table the issue in order to jointly care for the kids, discuss family budgeting, split household chores, etc.  And, at the end of the day, no one wants to cuddle with a grudge-holder. LOL.

So, there is no escape.  Thus, you quickly learn to “suck it up” and just let things go.  Too much to do, too little time to do it all.  That’s just life.

Creating success begins with improving oneself

So I’m no superwoman or special person who just says “yeah, I have it all under control and I know what I’m doing”.  Nope.  I have a life coach, I read books, and I work at being better.  Like marriage, “you” have to be worked on in order to work well and stay strong.   You make mistakes, you learn from them and you re-adjust for the next time.

What I’ve learned and what has gotten me through a lot, are techniques I have picked up from my Life Coach Marian Massie(www.marianmassie.com).

One of these lessons is:

Once your subconscious mind is programmed, you attract experiences and people into your life in accordance with the beliefs you hold.  You actually subconsciously draw into your experience that which you hold to be true. And this can be positive or negative and can be directly in opposition to what you believe consciously. So, by changing unwanted and limiting beliefs subconsciously you can create a much fuller life.

The exercise: Create the ending you would like to have happen. If you want a peaceful ending, tell yourself that and follow through on it.

Daily chants are also very helpful.  My daily chant before going into a work day with the hubby is:

I am safe to feel joy today and I will be happy in all I do. I am confident. My words will be soft and loving today. My thoughts will be creative, joyful and positive.  We rock as a team!  

This is me programing my subconscious.  Ok, yeah, sometimes I fall down on this and a bad day or two slides in.  But all in all I really enjoy being not only life partners with my husband, but business partners as well.  There have been days, I want to strangle him, but there are days that I wouldn’t trade him for the world.  Our relationship has grown so much just from working side by side daily, and it just keep getting better.

 I know my strong and weak points, and he knows his.  And, fortunately, we are opposites in this many of these areas.  Thus, like Yin & Yang, we complete one another, like partners should.  Reminds me what a very wise woman told me in San Francisco just a few months ago…”It takes a very smart woman to know what she’s good at, and what she’s not.” She said, she admired that in me. Thank you, Holly!

The Weirdness

Of course, there are some happenings that only slide when your business partner is your spouse.  For instance, having your business partner come to a late night status meeting (or two) in boxer shorts, no shirt, biceps glistening, and filling the room with the aroma of aftershave!  I know this sounds like something to out of a bad adult flick and has sexual harassment written all over it….LOL! 

I did a short stint in corporate America.  But not EVER do I remember any male co-workers attending a meeting like this!  But I have been out of that scene for a while.  Maybe things have changed a bit. :) However, late night meetings with the hubby end on a pretty nice note ;-) Working with your spouse does have its benefits.  Business partners with benefits. No blackmail, no fear of being found out, no rumors, no lawsuits and pretty darn convenient to meet.  Yep, I’m really liking this partnership